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Chinese Weddings: A Detailed Guide to Three Letters and Six Etiquettes (揭秘中国传统婚礼的壮丽:详解三书六礼)

Updated: May 17, 2023


In traditional Chinese society, the recognition of marriage echoes the modern societal norms of attaining a marriage certificate - a pivotal event marked by grandeur. The traditional Chinese wedding, particularly among the Chinese people, is a spectacle steeped in age-old customs and rituals, collectively known as the "Three Letters and Six Etiquettes (三书六礼)".

1. Understanding the 'Three Letters and Six Etiquettes' (理解‘三书六礼’)

At the heart of a traditional Chinese wedding are the "Three Letters (三书)" and the "Six Etiquettes (六礼)". The "Three Letters" include the Betrothal Letter, the Gift Letter, and the Wedding Letter. The "Six Etiquettes" are Proposing, Birthday Matching, Betrothal Gifts, Presenting Wedding Gifts, Picking an Auspicious Wedding Date, and the Wedding Ceremony. As a seasoned Feng Shui master, I've guided many clients through these steps, ensuring a harmonious flow of energy throughout.

2. The Three Letters: A Testament of Union (三书:结合的证明)

The "Three Letters (三书)" serve as formal documents throughout the wedding process. The Betrothal Letter (聘书) is the formal document of the engagement, the Gift Letter (礼书) details the gifts that accompany the Betrothal Letter, and the Wedding Letter (迎亲书) is presented to the bride's family on the day of the wedding, inviting them to the wedding ceremony.

3. The Six Etiquettes: A Dance of Rituals (六礼:仪式的舞蹈)

The "Six Etiquettes (六礼)" are the crucial steps leading to the wedding. They begin with the proposal, then the birthday matching of the bride and groom. If a match is successful, the groom's family presents betrothal gifts to the bride's family. More gifts are given after both parties agree to the wedding. An auspicious date is then picked for the wedding, culminating in the grand ceremony.

Embrace the Tradition (拥抱传统)

The intricate process of the "Three Letters and Six Etiquettes (三书六礼)" represents the profound cultural heritage of Chinese society. As a Feng Shui master, I offer my expertise to guide you through this enriching journey, ensuring every ritual perfectly harmonises with the universe. Contact me today, and let's bring your wedding vision to life, imbued with balance, prosperity, and auspiciousness.




At my practice, I use Ba Zi and Feng Shui to provide my clients with a comprehensive assessment of their lives. I take into account the unique energies of a person’s home and surroundings, as well as the energies of the environment and the person’s own destiny. With these insights, I am able to offer my clients assistance to help them reach their goals, and improve their lives.

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